The rains have finally passed! It was amazing to watch Mother River overflow her banks. It’s funny in a river town like ours, how the river touches all our lives. Everyone was out on Sunday evening wandering around in awe of the power of the flooding Rappahannock. We often use the word raging when we see the river so full and moving so swiftly, but that makes her sound so angry. To me she just needs to rise up every now and then and stretch and express her power. It’s a good reminder that we are part of nature, not in control of it. Watching huge trees bobbing along on her surface like insignificant toothpicks was enough to demonstrate that!
Of course, it’s a good reminder in another way too. There are times when our life seems to be overflowing, with joy, sadness, grief, work, stress, celebration, challenges. It’s important to remember to try not to judge and label those moments, like when we say Mother River is “raging.” Right now my life seems to be overflowing with changes. Today is my youngest daughter’s last day of high school! That’s a big change for both of us. What keeps flowing through my mind is David Bowie’s song Changes! There’s a lot of wisdom in that song actually, but the line that I keep coming back to is, “Turn and face the strange, Ch-ch-Changes.” (sorry if this gets the song stuck in your head!) Turn and face the changes. Sigh. That’s something we have a tendency to avoid. We instead prefer to look away, or think we can control the changes, just like we think we can control nature. Until the flood.
It’s those moments of flood when we can learn the most, if only we will turn and face whatever that flood is. I think the key is what we face the flood with. We must begin with awareness. Again, back to the lyrics of Changes, “They’re quite aware what they’re goin’ through.” If we face whatever the flood is with awareness rather than resistance, we can live through the flood of what we’re going through with more grace. We have a better chance of learning the lesson(s), healing the wound, making the connection, etc. with more gentleness. If the flood is too much stress, we can turn and face it with stillness. If it is grief, we can turn and face it with compassion for ourselves. If it is joy, we can turn and face it with presence so that we can truly enjoy those moments of joy!
As I move through the flood of changes that this time in both my daughters’ lives brings to their own lives and to mine, I will try to face that flood with awareness, presence, and with patience with myself. I want to be present in each moment with them. I want to be patient with myself as the tears flow in unexpected moments, like while simply making breakfast with them this past weekend. J I want to be immersed in the joy of celebration as they graduate and plan for their next steps. I want to connect with the stillness within myself, so I can be present with them as they face their fears about the unknowns before them.
For me it’s the difference between being washed away by the flood, and floating along with ease on the currents like those trees. The thing to remember about floods, is that despite the tearing down that can happen, they also leave behind much that is fertile, allowing for opportunities for rich new growth.
As the waters recede this week, may you find peace in the many lessons of the flood.